another life lesson from the wo-man in nc

Hello all.  It's time for a random life lesson learned from j to the udy.

I need to come up with more clever openings.... ;)

Anyyyyyyyway.

As I was driving my little Saturn home just a few minutes ago, thoughts started to race in my head about the definition of being "nice."  Being kind (please rewind) is a very good personality trait to have, and really helps people see that you care about others.  There is a point though, when someone can be a little TOO nice.  It's sad that in our society, other people take kind individuals for granted, and walk all over them.

I have personal experience with this.  I was always the one to avoid drama as much as possible, and go the extra mile to make sure that people, even ones that weren't my close friends were happy and satisfied.  If something they did bothered me, I let it go, because it didn't seem worth it.  What I've now come to realize , however.... and part of this has been from living in Greenville and meeting new people.... sometimes, you have to speak up for yourself and tell someone that they have done something that bothers you, or else that other person will believe it's ok to keep doing it.  The other day I caught myself snapping back at someone at work because they said something about interracial relationships, and me... and it bothered me.  For a split second, I felt as though I snapped for the wrong reason, and I was afraid I was coming off as a bitch, but then I realized... No.... I'm speaking up... that's not a bad thing.  Yes, I still consider myself nice and caring and I try to be there for the ones I love, and help out people in need, but I also make sure that my needs are taken care of.  That's a very important lesson to learn.

P.S.   On Valentine's day, a man shot at an interracial couple leaving the Walmart in Greenville, Nc because he disagreed with their relationship.  All I can think is, that could have been me and E.   How fucked up is that.  It's 2008 people, get over yourselves.